The Wedding I Never Had - A Vow Renewal

The Wedding I Never Had - A Vow Renewal

by Frances
(Jacksonville, Fl)

My husband and I were married almost 5 years ago after the birth of our son. My husband and I had never really thought too much about getting married, in fact he never even asked until we were on the way to the ceremony!

We were married in our friend's back yard (she was a county clerk) with a few friends there. None of our family was there (except our new 3 month old son) Now that we are approaching our 5 year anniversary we are hoping to plan a renewal ceremony near his home town in northern Michigan. I'm still not sure if any of my family will be there.

This being my second marriage I am hoping to finally have a wedding. I'm not one of the "typical" brides that has every minute detail planned out since they were a little girl. And quite honestly feel completely overwhelmed with no help from anyone. Is this typical? Is there anyway that I can help ensure that my family can be there?

So far this site has been helpful in giving me a general idea of what to do, but with it not actually being a wedding it seems that there are a lot "whatever you want it to be" rather than "this is what you need to do".

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Congratulations
by: Nisha- Editor

Hi Frances,

Congratulations on coming up on 5 years of marriage! It's true that there is a whole lot more flexibility involved with a vow renewal than a traditional wedding. That is because the wedding was the original ceremony joining 2 people together and the vow renewal is a way to show a recommitment of your love for each other.

Our free wedding checklist page will go over the basics you will need when putting together a traditional wedding. There will be a few differences with the vow renewal, but hopefully it will get you pointed in the right direction.

Also, make sure to read our tips on our vow renewal ceremonies page to brush up on the etiquette involved with a vow renewal.

As far as your family attending the celebration, there is no way to know how your family feels about attending your vow renewal without talking to them about it. You know their personalities best, so find out any reservations they have about coming and try to resolve it if it is important to you for them to be there.

Remember, the most important 2 people in a vow renewal is you and your husband. So even if you do not have the support of your family, you can have a beautiful ceremony together, celebrating the gift of your love.

Best wishes on your vow renewal!!

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